April 16, 2013

Positivity & Light


Can I preface this post by saying it was in my drafts days before this whole "Blog Drama-Turned-Blogging Topic-for-Everyone" became the thing to do? And I'm sorry if this makes no sense & is just silly rambling.

Okay, now that we have that awkward bit out of the way, let's get on to the actual post here.

The idea for this post came from the fact that some of my favorite songs to listen to are those with positive messages & happy thoughts. I sound like a gypsy or something when I say this, I'm sure, but it's true.

Basically, I decided to dedicate a whole post to this after some unfortunate circumstances came up.

Bob Merrick hosts his own radio show, The Baub Show, every weekday online. The show theme is Accentuating the Positive. Bob is a huge advocate & enforcer of positivity & kindness. Really, a great man. He is good friends with Jeff Schroeder & Jordan Lloyd of Big Brother 11 & 13 (of which, you may know, I am a huge fan).

Well, people were carrying on with their life, per usual & making decisions to benefit the future. Things got misconstrued, rumors made up, lies spread, & feelings hurt (much like the blogosphere, but that's another story).

Bob decided to address these issues & how he felt on his show one day. I highly recommend listening to it; even if you have no idea who the three aforementioned people are, the message is amazing. Click here to listen (it starts around the 34 minute mark & goes until the 60 minute mark).

Basically he talks about how in life, sometimes you gotta do what you don't want to do to be where you want to be. Ever heard the saying "Life is not what happens to you, but how you respond to it".

And a lot of times, how you respond to it, affects how other's look at you.

Sometimes life isn't fair, but we all have the free will to respond to it how we choose.

Free will.

It's a great thing. Because, even though some people don't care if they rub their negativity and lack of respect off on you, you have the free will to choose from what you feel is right and what you feel is wrong. You have the free will to choose to ignore these people.

Like the tweet I've reposted numerous times says, if you don't like what someone is saying or doing, do not participate. End of story. Go and choose to better yourself. Choose to "accentuate the positive".

And believe in your choices. Know that where you are at and what you are doing is the right choice for you. Live your life unfazed by what others think of your choice. And support others in the decisions they make; we receive enough criticism and negativity, especially as females. We need to learn to respect others decisions, opinions, and beliefs and support one another.

I'm guilty of doing the opposite.

Feeling less because I work at a nursing home.
Feeling less because I still live at home.
Feeling less because I haven't had a real relationship.
Feeling less because of all of the above given the fact I am 24 years old.

But happiness is a choice. I choose to be happy. And I choose to be happy and content with where my life currently is.

I've read two posts from two wonderful bloggers lately that speak to the same message.

Samantha from Hooah & Hiccups wrote about living the life you want.
Shane from Whispering Sweet Nothings blogged about choosing to be happy.

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night & day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight -- & never stop fighting." -- e.e. cummings

"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good." -- Samuel Johnson

"Always do right. This will gratify some people & astonish the rest." -- Mark Twain

"The world you desire can be won. It is real. It is possible. It is yours." -- Ayn Rand

In writing this, I am reminded of a scene from One Tree Hill.

So my challenge to those reading my blog today is this:

Say something nice to someone today. Be it a stranger, a friend, a family member, a fellow blogger, a co-worker. What is one thing you've always admired or loved or just something you find pretty cool about that person? Lift others up today with your words and actions.

Be kind to one another.


  1. Girl don't let any of those things make you feel less than you are. You're 24 you've got time ... up until a month ago I was still interning! So you've got a good four years ;) Joking aside I understand exactly how you feel though. The past few years for me were a very similar situation and I swear it will get better. Just keep working hard toward what you want and you will achieve it ... and if things don't end up exactly how you want (which they never seem to for me!) I would bet money you'll still end up somewhere awesome :)

  2. I'm a born encourager- always looking for ways to lift others up. But I don't usually pay myself the same courtesy! Lovely reminder.